The book that I decided to read for this assignment was “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” by Stephen R. Covey. Initially, my reason for selecting this book was because my boyfriend had begun to read it and I noticed a drastic change in his vocabulary, which was beginning to irritate me. He was explaining every word and action in terms of choices; I choose to do this or I chose to feel that.
And, because I didn’t understand where he was coming from, I got aggravated and asked him to quit it with the list of personal choices. But, now that I’ve read this book, I’m actually impressed by the way Covey guides his readers towards better communication and improved relationships.In the first chapter of this book, Covey works towards explaining the concepts that make up the foundation of his teachings. We learn that the Character Ethic (what we are) is much more important than the Personality Ethic (what we say or do), but that for the last 50 years or so, we have been relying on the short-term benefits of the Personality Ethic to help us through our relationships. Unfortunately, relationships based on personality without character are like houses built on a foundation of toothpicks. This concept made a great deal of sense for me since I grew up in Southern California where image was everything and no one seemed to have an ounce of integrity.
If a manager is busy kissing up to his superiors and pacifying his employees, he is wasting his time on showmanship and will never accomplish solid and lasting relationships. It’s like living from paycheck to paycheck; there are no relationship benefits accumulated after each interaction. Also discussed by Covey is the importance of shifting from a world of dependency (“you”) to one of independence (“I”).
This way, an individual is more capable of having interdependent (“we”) relationships. “Even though independent people may be good individual producers, if they cannot think or act interdependently, they won’t be good leaders or team players.” Lastly, Covey mentions what he calls the P/PC Balance. This is a balance between the production of desired results (P) and the production capability or maintenance of the producer (PC).
An excessive amount of focus in either production or production capacity will have disastrous results according to Covey. This makes a lot of sense in the business world because employees wouldn’t have jobs without enough quality product and the product can’t be produced without the commitment and interest of devoted employees.The first of Covey’s seven habits is to Be Proactive. He believes that individuals driven by feelings, circumstances, conditions, and their environment are living reactively instead of proactively. According to Covey, between stimulus and response, humans have the power to choose their desired responses.
He feels that too many people blame the problems in their lives on genetic, psychic, and environmental factors and that, instead, we need to take responsibility for who we are and how we respond to our world. Well, as a psychology major, I got a little bored with this chapter because for me, it all boiled down to an internal versus external locus of control. Individuals with an internal locus of control tend to have higher self-esteem and lower depression scores than individuals with an external locus of control. So, if you were trying to “build a better individual,” it would make sense to help these individuals regain a sense of control over their own lives.
This is where my boyfriend found his new vocabulary and why he walked around announcing his conscious choices in life. He was discovering his personal power and it made him feel like a participant rather than a victim of his environment. Personally, I think there needs to be a balance. In reality, an individual doesn’t have time to process every single stimulus that enters their personal universe.
Covey’s second habit, Begin with the End in Mind, is a great idea even though it is a little morbid. “Begin today with the end of your life in mind and use it as your frame of reference or the criterion by which everything else is examined.” Basically, he wants you to shape your perspective in terms of how you want to be remembered when you’re dead. By figuring out what you want to be when you grow up, you give yourself a mental pathway and are better prepared to identify the choices that will keep you on this path.Finally, someone is challenging the public to discover their own values instead of adopting those of the people or companies around them.It’s sad to say, but many of us can’t identify our core beliefs.So, I think this is a very important step in order for individuals to find the best fit in their personal and.